LAFIA – Mrs Felicial Aboki, a woman who divorced her 18 years-old marriage has finally revealed why she left her husband to marry Prof. Allanana Otaki, the immediate past Commissioner for Agriculture and Water Resources in the government of Abdullahi Sule, governor of Nasarawa State.
Mrs Aboki said she had to opt out of the marriage because her husband’s ill health was becoming unbearable.
Her words, “Despite his health condition which he hides from me for years before I later found out, Mr Aboki is suffering from Azoospermia.
“Azoospermia is a condition where a man can’t father a child because he doesn’t produce sperm. Having known his condition I stood by him. I didn’t cheat on him just so I could have my own children. I insisted he sought for a medical treatment which he refused. How many women would sacrifice their joy of being a mother to such a selfish man for 18-years?
“Instead of appreciating my sacrifices, all I got from him in return was his cheating, womanising, constant battering and threats of how he will kill me if I tell anyone he was responsible for our childlessness. I bore the shame and scorn of barrenness alone for 18 years. When it wasn’t any fault of mine. Yet, I still stood by him. Very few women could do this and this is what I get as payback.
“I have been passing through a lot; emotional neglect and isolation have become part of me for the past 18 years. It is still in the course of the union that I developed high blood pressure as a result of his maltreatment. He despises my feelings. Yet, I have been bearing his ill-treatment all these years.
“I was unhappy in the marriage, but fear alternatives. He consistently neglect my own needs for the sake of his. Very selfish, and egocentric man, he makes a lot of sacrifices to please other people out there just to look good but can’t reciprocate such gestures with me.
“In 2020, I came to terms that accepting the abuse isn’t my responsibility anymore. That I actually deserve better. Sadly, it took a whole 18 years to realise I wasted my youth living with a monster like Mr Aboki my Ex. Immediately I left him, I stopped taking BP drugs which means, he was leading me to an early grave.
“On several occasions, I have tried to help, but it’s unlikely, he won’t break this pattern of behaviour without professional counseling, this he wasn’t ready to seek the desired help he needed.
“I disengaged and set personal boundaries from him. I exited the marriage by cutting all ties with him. I made it clear that it’s over between us and didn’t look back. The day I was leaving his house, he offered me the sum of N10,000 for my transportation. And in my culture where I came from, once a man gives you transport to leave his house, then indeed it is over.